Robyn I would have to agree and say Go with the bridesmaid gig, your friend could be torn if you back out, sounds like you need to have a conversation with her to nut it out... be honest & upfront ... & she might let you off the hook
My wife had agreed to be matron of honour for a friend ... not a really close friend but the keeper did not hesitate in accepting the role, then she finds out she has to shell out for all the gear dress shoes the whole kit & caboodle then finds out that its going to be a long drawn out day with the wedding at one place pics at another then the reception at another hours later... not happy jan. the wedding is next weekend & I have to drag the kids to this shindig & I don't know anyone I will basically be on my own at a table of strangers with the only kids present at the wedding (they better behave) so we are both going to be uncomfortable.
meah.......I would have questioned how good a friend this person is before committing... isnt hindsight a wonderfull thing
