In need of some moral support....

[Black Magic]

Thank you to everyone- i really do appreciate the support I have received.

I will stop complaining and try and get on with it. Not sure right now, but it would be easier if I didn't have to face the day.

Back when i can.

[Blue14]

Dont ever think you are complaining, if this is your outlet so be it .

You take care Wendy. Only you will know when you are ready to move on to the next stage ..

[mohawk miss]

I have been there, done that and bought the t-shirt too.

However, I'm not going to tell you to get out and drink yourself stupid, remember that alcohol (gin especially) is a depressant.

As a sufferer myself, you seem to be showing classic signs of Reactive Depression. Get yourself a good GP, or a referral to a depression clinic. Don't think they will just dole out Prozac or the like, I don't take any drugs at all when i get it.

Talk to us all if you need to, its the best way to deal with it.

Oh, and Ratmick, I think that's called "karma"

[Ratmick]

karma..?

Possibly .

Maybe she didn't leave for the reason she thought she was leaving for. Maybe once the excitment she was having while undertaking an illicit affair wore off once I cut her loose and things lost their gloss. She wasn't the easiest person to live with, not that it's my problem any more. Who knows .

Mick

[photomike666]

Hey Wendy,

I'm really sorry to hear of your troubles, and know that there's little I can do but offer advice. Hell, I'm not even sure I'm going to be good at that. I'm trying to be objective not judgemental here.

When you are down and hurting, it is easy to look at the negative side of your experiences; the misjustices that were delt you and the mistakes you may have made. What is harder, but eventually more useful is to remember the better bits, and think of each as something that was given. How did you enlighten some elses life, and what did they bring you in the good times. Takes these thoughs with you and move on.

Being bitter and resentful or simply sad at the loss will fuel the depression and have no effect on the past. So learn what you can from both the good and the bad, discard the bad, and move forward with the good. This is not the easy option, but once you have found that the past is something you cannot change, it is the best way of moving forward.

I hope I have made some sense, and given you a light at the end of the tunnel, rather than a bunch of incomprehensible pshyco-babble.

[T]

Wendy,

Smile...........when feeling low then breathe...
Think.......when feeling frustrated....
Take a deep breath and smile again because the world is brighter after the second breath... the sun is always gonna be there tomorrow...doesn't matter whether it is a shytey day or not, it's always gonna be there.

I'm not even going to even try to compare but i do know how you feel, i have been there. We never Grow up... we are female...

Frustrated
Emotional
Menopausal
Aggitated
Loving and
Evolving

Just think of all the fun you can have...But please remember you're not the only one feeling low, there is always someone else out there having a worse day than you.
I will say this though... If your feeling shyte DO NOT GET ON THE BIKE.... it is not worth it. Your emotions take over, the voice takes over when your helmet is on and can lead you into situations you might not be able to get out of.
Have a bourbon instead.......
I can always send you one if you don't have one.... I have a fridge full....lol

[Black Magic]

I feel very humbled, surprised and a little embarrased by all of the replies, PM's and phone calls everyone- you sure are an amazing bunch and your caring shows the essence of the biking community to me again.

Have had some good people tell me that Halls Gap may just be the medicine I need.
Working on it!

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[ttc]

Wendy I don't know if this will help you but I hope it does in some way..

The last 3 weeks have really sucked..

I went to the specialist and he tells me I'll be limping for the rest of my life, the damage to my hip is permanent and he had warned me that it could be made worse by the op, so I can't ride my bike for long periods.. and if I'm having a bad day I can't ride at all.
I got a new job that the people were really nice and we got along really well, but I've had to quit because I can't stay on my feet for that long
I bought a car to get around in because I'm having trouble on the bike, I had it ten days and damaged the gearbox, doing $1000 damage, and the mechanic tells me the back brakes are stuffed, it needs $250 spent on them too.
I already had $1300 worth of bills to pay before that (excluding mortgage etc)


Then my brother in law died after a long battle with cancer, leaving my sister alone to raise 3 kids (4yr old twins and a 8yr old) He never complained, he knew his time was coming, he was just worried about his family. It just puts things in to perspective, I thought about she must be feeling, how he felt, and compared to that, I have nothing, absolutely nothing to worry about.

Sometimes things seem insurmountable, but we have to see the positives in what we have and what we can do with our lives. We are luckier than a lot of people, even at our worse, we are still incredibly lucky.

I hope you feel better soon

[Black Magic]

Damn Tanya that sucks! ( I feel like a big sook after reading about your stuff! )

Maybe we should get together to drown our sorrows.

I am no-one to give you advice as obviously I cannot even sort my own troubles out, but know that I am thinking of you and wishing you strength and healing.

Thank you for your caring.

[QLDZX6R]

Bugger,wish my bike hadn't been written off definately sounds like a "ride for Black Magic" weekend.Come on Brisbane Crew!!!
Hope it all works out and remember one foot at a time.

[ttc]

Hope it all works out and remember one foot at a time.

Exactly..

Wendy don't feel sorry for me, apart from my stupid hip everything else is just money, and eventually I'll get on top of it..
The hip thing does get me down, and there's a lot of things I can't do anymore (well I do them but I pay for it later ) but like I said I am still incredibly lucky compared to others, and Itry to remind myself of this.

We just need to look for the positives, and if we look we will find them

Keep you chin up

[r1_forever]

Hey Wendy the speed was 128 in an 80 zone on your first post and now it's 108?

If it was a typo it's a good thing for you as it means you keep your license

[Black Magic]

Hey Wendy the speed was 128 in an 80 zone on your first post and now it's 108?

If it was a typo it's a good thing for you as it means you keep your license

Yes I got a PM asking if I lost my license doing more than 40 over the limit! When i looked back I realised that I had put '128' instead of '108'- I was 28 over the speed limit.

Tyop there- can't even think straight after all this stress.

[Ratmick]

Tyop there- can't even think straight after all this stress.

...did you do that on purpose?

Mick

[Black Magic]

Tyop there- can't even think straight after all this stress.

...did you do that on purpose?

Mick

No, and I have only had one beer!

God, it's a wonder I haven't been sacked or had an accident. Honestly I haven't eaten or slept properly for two months ( and it is showing!) Just writing this I have had to go back four times to fix it.

Bear with me for a while guys, I hope to return to my intelligent and fun-loving self after I finish wallowing.