Are there any "carers" out there?

[waynemorgan]

Evening all,

With the change in my circumstance I find myself now being a full time carer for my 80yo mum.

Are there any other riders out there who are currently caring for loved ones? If so, how are you handling it?

Cheers,
Wayne

[craig]

not sure i qualify you'd have to ask my family ........................good luck with it ....aged care can be very demanding

[Smitty]

..............
Are there any other riders out there who are currently caring for loved ones? If so, how are you handling it?

Cheers,
Wayne

I (we) started ...then stopped
caring and dealing with an incontinent dementia affected adult who also was suffering the initial
stages of Parkinsons..wore us out in a few months

On the advice of doctors, we regretfully placed Mum in a highcare nursing home
she was there until she died (a few years ago)

mate a tuffie this one
it depends on the medical state of the person in care...without training in some instances its just not possible

best of luck

cheers

[robracer]

Geez Wayne that's a huge responsibility & not something I think I could do..... hope it all works out for you.

[laidback]

I'm sure most here will be available for moral support. My mum is 87 and we had to put her in a home as it was too much for our family (7 of us) and she had moved from one to another. Saddest day of my life when I visited and she did not know who I was...

[seraph]

best advice I can give you is that you MUST take time out for yourself, even if it's only a morning a week where you can get a bunch of allied health services come to the house one after another, so you have 4 hours off when you know she'll be supervised by medical professionals - then sleep, go see a movie, spend some time on the bike, whatever you need. Do you have a decent care package organised? If not, make some enquiries into the various government, church, volunteer and private packages that can assist your mum (and yourself) in the home. Even if she's already receiving a certain level of assistance, they can do a reassessment (it's called an ACAD assessment here in QLD, not sure about you southeners) and she may be eligible for a higher package.

Take care of YOU too. Thoughts are with you and your family. J.

[waynemorgan]

Wow - thanks for all the supportive comments - I'm staggered.

Mum is diabetic, blind, mild parkinsons, heart disease, severe osteoperosis in her hips and arthuritus. Apart from that she's pretty well. Still has most of her faculties and a great sense of humor. She's due to have the cateracts removed in the next 4-6 weeks which "may" restore some of her sight.

Thanks for the advice on getting some professional assistance - I'm currently looking into some home care which will allow me some time out as well. That would be a big help.

Once again, thanks for the positive comments. Really appreciated

Cheers

[seraph]

Chin up, bucko. Some of us know what you're going through, all of us are sympathetic. You're doing a good thing, and a hard thing. If you need a cheer up or some sort of support, folks to come out for a quick blat with you, distraction, KSRC will come good, I'm sure.

PM if you need to talk. J.

[gpxpunk]

Wow - thanks for all the supportive comments - I'm staggered.

Mum is diabetic, blind, mild parkinsons, heart disease, severe osteoperosis in her hips and arthuritus. Apart from that she's pretty well. Still has most of her faculties and a great sense of humor. She's due to have the cateracts removed in the next 4-6 weeks which "may" restore some of her sight.

Thanks for the advice on getting some professional assistance - I'm currently looking into some home care which will allow me some time out as well. That would be a big help.

Once again, thanks for the positive comments. Really appreciated

Cheers

Damn Wayne, i understand what you meant now when you txted me the day of the putty ride, I understood then that your needed to care for your mum, but wow, all that. Your mother is a strong lady. Good luck with everything dude. When you need to get out for a quick blat or something just give me a yell.

[waynemorgan]

Thanks mate - appreciate all the support here.

[Dizzi]

Hey Wayne, yeah I do understand what your going through, my grandmother lived with us till she was 94, she lived till she was 96 (god rest her soul) so any info or stuff you need just hoi and yeah any support anything at all just hoi

[Bussa]

G'day wayne,
I take my to you mate,
everyones postings are of great value. The beauty of this country is, we have all the services availiable to
attend our needs and wellbieng and there is always someone willing to help and guide us through.
Mate, keep up the loving, it warms the soul.
If you need time out i live just down castlereagh rd.